@mayor @Aleums I tend to like "why are you wearing jeans/shorts/whatever?"

Usually it's "I like it!" And I only need to say "well, there you go"

Sometimes it's "it's NORMAL", and I like to pull a sad face and say "oh, how boring for you"

@markusl *checks Urban Dictionary* yeah… none of those are the definition here. Think Dolores Umbridge from the HP series.

@ConsoleWitch I suspect this particular Delores took Unbridge at what she perceived to be a man wearing women's clothing (she's half right: I'm a man. But skirts being "women's" is a really modern idea, and even now a kilt is generally masc-associated)

Folks like this often want their morality to be a set of clear rules about who fits in what bucket, and can't grasp that the rest of us are comfortable with difference and ambiguity: they see that comfort as an attack

And yeah, it definitely seems like they had rehearsed that to some degree, so they must have seen similar shit enough to have had a Conversation about it. Doesn't make it less awesome IMO

Had to take the bus into town today, and wore a kilt. Some Delores decided to take issue; which sadly I'm used to. "Why are you wearing a skirt?!" and so on. As I said, used to it (and big scary white dude, so I have some privilege to wield), so I'm calmly addressing it with her

But then she said "well how am I supposed to explain that to my kid?!", and friends, I didn't have to say a thing, because the most awesome Black lady jumped in. She turned to her kid (I'd guess roughly 13 years old) and said "hey, why is he allowed to wear a skirt?"

Kid: "he's grown enough to wear whatever the fuck he wants"

Mom: "see?! Ain't hard ma'am"

Delores huffed but that was pretty much the end 🤣

:drake_dislike: Anthropomorphism
:drake_like: Arthropomorphism

@socketwench this this this. Same thing (but at least more subtly—though to be fair that's a very low bar) for Fern Gully; fairies and the like as stand-ins for indigenous cultures is also a very old trope

New question: how did you share music? Was it like a folder of MP3s? I mean, eventually yeah. But people brought blank CDs and copied them or made mixes from .wav files (but most people only had enough drive space for a few CDs worth at a time)

@mforester I miss the camraderie of being in the same place to hack and game and share stuff—it was easier to get people to do that when it was the only practical option

But I do not miss hauling my rig into a strip mall or friend's basement or whatever. Nor do I miss being unable to play with friends who were too far away to come to LAN parties

Spent some time today explaining to my kids how "online gaming" worked before broadband. Questions:

How did you share memes? Mostly message boards, but at a LAN party someone might have a folder. We didn't call theme memes though

So you brought a laptop to like a Pizza Hut? LOL, no one could afford a laptop and they were all slow. No we carted our tower and CRT and a power strips ans created a fire hazard and a huge energy bill for the pizza place, as God intended

@thegibson learned a while ago that if you delay taking a break for too long, your body and brain will eventually force you. And you ain’t gonna like it.

Worse times are coming, and this system that isn’t letting people heal is gonna break

@sng @carcinopithecus good tip. Be aware their data is by title, and sometimes your title doesn't match what you DO. Search job boards to find jobs that have similar duties/skills and ask about those titles too!

If you get blown off, wait a bit. Sometimes that's just a boss trying to avoid making a promise while they address it.

If you get told no, be pragmatic. Thank your boss for hearing you out, then quietly start looking for a new job. You don't want to get pushed out before you have something new lined up, so you've got to act like you're planning to stay

do not get mad or snippy. You'll destroy any chance of help and put your job at risk. That takes control away from you. Calm and professional is powerful and maximizes the control you have over what happens next

Has it been more than 24 months since you got a raise? Go ask.

Take a second to do some research about what your role is paid in other orgs in your area. If you're paid noticably less, mention that.

Also organize your thoughts around the good things you've done since last raise. Did you take on new responsibility? Achieve something hard? Exceed goals? Any of that is stuff you can bring up.

Read about negotiating salary during interviews and apply those tactics.

Don't be adversarial. Your tone here is "I've considered my pay in comparison to the market and in light of performance, and I'd like your help getting my pay to reflect that"; yes, your boss is probably not on your side, but it's in your interest to act like this is a thing you'll work on together. Your boss will know you might leave, it's implied: it doesn't serve you at all to point it out

@schratze @volpeon :thinking_very_hard: use multiple OSes, hate computers entirely

@ifixcoinops @RadicalEdward and also the FOAF (Friend of a Friend) microformat ontology, which let you build a federated social network by just including some static data in your HTML pages.

@neauoire I mean, kinda both maybe?

@ajroach42 I suppose that depends on when you measure the ideology. There are hints at ideological corruption along the way; that is that the ideology as presented in canon has itself been corrupted from its original intent (big hints in the whole "the Jedi must end" arc and the saving of ancient texts suggesting that the need for rebirth of a less corrupt ideology)

Though of course, whether that "actually" happened is largely my headcanon ;)

@ajroach42 indeed, I've always thought that the arc of the Jedi in canon was a story of how positive ideals taken to extremes and given moral and political authority become corrupted

So what would y'all consider to be the essential "hacker movies". Obviously Hackers (1995), Sneakers (1992), WarGames (1983)… what else?