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1. calcifer@hackers.town's status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 00:45:52 UTC calcifer

   Had to take the bus into town today, and wore a kilt. Some Delores decided to take issue; which sadly I'm used to. "Why are you wearing a skirt?!" and so on. As I said, used to it (and big scary white dude, so I have some privilege to wield), so I'm calmly addressing it with her

   But then she said "well how am I supposed to explain that to my kid?!", and friends, I didn't have to say a thing, because the most awesome Black lady jumped in. She turned to her kid (I'd guess roughly 13 years old) and said "hey, why is he allowed to wear a skirt?"

   Kid: "he's grown enough to wear whatever the fuck he wants"

   Mom: "see?! Ain't hard ma'am"

   Delores huffed but that was pretty much the end 🤣

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   • Digital Mark λ 📚 🕹 💾 🥃 (mdhughes@appdot.net)'s status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 00:53:12 UTC Digital Mark λ 📚 🕹 💾 🥃

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     @calcifer I've worn Utilikilts in public, and didn't get any real shit for it, but I'm also a giant dude, and it was Seattle, where everyone's weird, kilts are common-ish, and summers are unbearably hot so not wearing pants is rational.

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   • calcifer@hackers.town's status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 00:54:16 UTC calcifer

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     And yeah, it definitely seems like they had rehearsed that to some degree, so they must have seen similar shit enough to have had a Conversation about it. Doesn't make it less awesome IMO

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   • calcifer@hackers.town's status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 00:55:01 UTC calcifer

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     • ConsoleWitch

     @ConsoleWitch I suspect this particular Delores took Unbridge at what she perceived to be a man wearing women's clothing (she's half right: I'm a man. But skirts being "women's" is a really modern idea, and even now a kilt is generally masc-associated)

     Folks like this often want their morality to be a set of clear rules about who fits in what bucket, and can't grasp that the rest of us are comfortable with difference and ambiguity: they see that comfort as an attack

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   • ConsoleWitch (consolewitch@pdx.social)'s status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 00:55:08 UTC ConsoleWitch

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     @calcifer I've been thinking: Why does the presence or absence of a slip of fabric between my legs have anything to do with my decency? Is this like how women weren't allowed to show their ankles because it meant they were "loose" does it mean that because I wear a skirt i'm "loose"? because if so, why aren't I getting more attention from my desired partners?

   • MarkusL (markusl@fosstodon.org)'s status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 00:55:37 UTC MarkusL

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     @calcifer Trying to avoid an unnecessary question, I searched the Web for "Delores" and ended up at the always-edifying Urban Dictionary. My advice would be: don't do that.

     *Shudder*

   • calcifer@hackers.town's status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 00:55:37 UTC calcifer

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     • MarkusL

     @markusl *checks Urban Dictionary* yeah… none of those are the definition here. Think Dolores Umbridge from the HP series.

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   • Konni (konni@toot.kartonrad.de)'s status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 00:55:50 UTC Konni

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     @calcifer based
     "damnnnn you haven't heard about doing whatever the fuck you want??? damnn thats rough"

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   • Hollie (hollie@weirder.earth)'s status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 00:56:39 UTC Hollie

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     • lilo

     @calcifer @lilo I love this story! The funny thing is that it’s much harder to explain the rightness of gendered clothing to kids than the wrongness. We let our kids wear whatever they wanted, but it was interesting to watch other parents try to explain why gendered clothing made sense. It really breaks down on explanation. Kids see through that quickly.

     What she was really upset about was that her kids might see how illogical she was.

     Also skirts and kilts on dudes are awesome. :)

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   • calcifer@hackers.town's status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 05:34:50 UTC calcifer

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     • Banjos & Such

     @mayor @Aleums I tend to like "why are you wearing jeans/shorts/whatever?"

     Usually it's "I like it!" And I only need to say "well, there you go"

     Sometimes it's "it's NORMAL", and I like to pull a sad face and say "oh, how boring for you"

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   • Banjos & Such (mayor@banjo.town)'s status on Friday, 24-Jun-2022 05:34:54 UTC Banjos & Such

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     @calcifer @Aleums my favorite “why are you wearing a kilt/skirt” retort is “what else am I going to do with it?”