@sean as someone who basically grew straight from That kind of evangelical fundie xianity to That kind of atheism i've been pretty much double-vaxxed against any sort of spirituality - the angel on one shoulder screams i'm associating w/demons & going to hell, the other angel shames me for wasting my life on empty ritual+nonsense
2014-21 really helped fight the latter but that Fear in the former never really left
what @drq describes has been the most comforting option i've got