im looking for something remote in germany, Rust or C are preferred but id also work in Go, C++ or Python

idk,, i hate the idea that i owe my family my life for growing up with them, that i have some responsibility to sacrifice my own boundaries and well-being just for their sake, just because they probably dont have malicious intentions

i wouldnt do this for anyone else, especially when i can just go and find so many people out there thay will just use my name and pronouns

u know, i wonder why exactly im supposed to stay patient after at least 2 years

like yeah its *probably* not malicious but thats just a boundary i have now; if some people legitimately still cant not step on that every week, even if theyre trying, why should i keep spending so much time around them?

idk the entire idea u owe ur family to keep contact no matter what is bs and is just priming everyone to put up with abuse

cis parents be like "oh yeah sure ill use ur new name" - *deadnames me while talking to the cat*