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1. tiny trash dragn 🤍 :dragnowo: (mxdragon@queer.garden)'s status on Thursday, 30-Dec-2021 05:57:32 UTC tiny trash dragn 🤍 :dragnowo:

   cis parents be like "oh yeah sure ill use ur new name" - *deadnames me while talking to the cat*

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   • tiny trash dragn 🤍 :dragnowo: (mxdragon@queer.garden)'s status on Thursday, 30-Dec-2021 14:21:08 UTC tiny trash dragn 🤍 :dragnowo:

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     idk the entire idea u owe ur family to keep contact no matter what is bs and is just priming everyone to put up with abuse

   • Sophie Jane (ghost_bird@mythago.space)'s status on Thursday, 30-Dec-2021 14:21:08 UTC Sophie Jane

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     @mxdragon It’s absolutely okay to have boundaries with family and to assert them if you need to. And nobody gets a pass for deadnaming after two years, imho. Maybe they don’t actively intend to hurt you, but not caring about the hurt they cause isn’t a big improvement

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   • tiny trash dragn 🤍 :dragnowo: (mxdragon@queer.garden)'s status on Thursday, 30-Dec-2021 14:21:09 UTC tiny trash dragn 🤍 :dragnowo:

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     u know, i wonder why exactly im supposed to stay patient after at least 2 years

     like yeah its *probably* not malicious but thats just a boundary i have now; if some people legitimately still cant not step on that every week, even if theyre trying, why should i keep spending so much time around them?

   • tiny trash dragn 🤍 :dragnowo: (mxdragon@queer.garden)'s status on Thursday, 30-Dec-2021 14:21:09 UTC tiny trash dragn 🤍 :dragnowo:

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     idk,, i hate the idea that i owe my family my life for growing up with them, that i have some responsibility to sacrifice my own boundaries and well-being just for their sake, just because they probably dont have malicious intentions

     i wouldnt do this for anyone else, especially when i can just go and find so many people out there thay will just use my name and pronouns