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1. Linuxtjej 🏳️‍🌈🇸🇪 (linuxtjej@mastodon.social)'s status on Saturday, 09-Jul-2022 13:37:02 UTC Linuxtjej 🏳️‍🌈🇸🇪

   How do you get someone who’s never been in a relationship before to open up?

   • Naga (naga@weirder.earth)'s status on Saturday, 09-Jul-2022 13:37:01 UTC Naga

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     @Linuxtjej If this isn't rhetorical . . . I've never been on that side of the formula, but what's worked for me on the receiving end is having every time I *do* open up be reinforced, or at minimum never have any negative consequences.

     My first and current spouses couldn't have handled this more differently from each other.

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   • Loren Lepton (lorenlepton@mastodon.social)'s status on Saturday, 09-Jul-2022 13:37:23 UTC Loren Lepton

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     @Linuxtjej I don’t like doing such a thing. But I’ve never had help with my previous life’s turmoil. Luckily I am hopefully getting help soon

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   • Linuxtjej 🏳️‍🌈🇸🇪 (linuxtjej@mastodon.social)'s status on Saturday, 09-Jul-2022 13:37:24 UTC Linuxtjej 🏳️‍🌈🇸🇪

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     This person has a self-depracating humour to deal with everything that is ”hard” emotionally. (And has admitted to using humour as a defense-mechanism).

   • Loren Lepton (lorenlepton@mastodon.social)'s status on Saturday, 09-Jul-2022 13:37:24 UTC Loren Lepton

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     @Linuxtjej I do the same. I’ve a *really* tough life having to grow up really quickly at a very young age & I use humour to cope with certain things. I do shy away from other things but humour plays a part to cope

   • El Stevo (elstevo@mastodon.social)'s status on Sunday, 10-Jul-2022 00:37:17 UTC El Stevo

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     @Linuxtjej Sorry to say it's probably just a matter of being present and patient, and waiting for them to feel comfortable enough to be open. I'm like that, and any attempt to make me open up when I'm not ready just makes me clam up tighter. Psychology is weird huh, we're our own worst enemies sometimes.

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