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1. Fitheach (fitheach@mstdn.io)'s status on Monday, 06-Jun-2022 11:44:26 UTC Fitheach

   A new employee started 10 days a go. I've noticed she is very touchie-feelie. She is always putting her hand on my shoulder, and around my waist. It happens a good deal more than one might expect of someone just being friendly.

   I'm not going to say anything, nor will I react. I'll see if it just stops after a while.

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   • Helen Lockhart (helenlockhart@mstdn.social)'s status on Monday, 06-Jun-2022 11:44:26 UTC Helen Lockhart

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     @fitheach That is tricky. I think my instinct would be to distance myself physically when that happens. And hopefully that movement would give the message that you're not comfortable with it.

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   • Andy C (andyc@pleroma.stream)'s status on Monday, 06-Jun-2022 11:52:40 UTC Andy C

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     • Helen Lockhart
     @fitheach @helenlockhart Is she junior, senior or a peer? In any case, it's inappropriate and would make me very uncomfortable. Imagine if you were putting your arm around a female colleagues waist.
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   • Fitheach (fitheach@mstdn.io)'s status on Monday, 06-Jun-2022 11:52:41 UTC Fitheach

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     • Helen Lockhart

     @helenlockhart
     It doesn't bother me, that much, as long as that is the limit of the physical contact. If anything else happened I might say or do something.

     I've also noticed that the contact often happens when others are watching. It's as if there is a "possession" thing being demonstrated.

     Of course, I might be blowing the whole thing out of proportion.