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1. The Embodiment of RED (thraeryn@thraeryn.net)'s status on Tuesday, 03-May-2022 23:05:40 UTC The Embodiment of RED

   Time to dispel myths and talk realities, because if you can do this, you should strongly consider it.

   I got my vasectomy about 17y ago, and welcome other, more recent stories.

   * Got mine through Planned Parenthood. Sliding scale.
   * The woman on phone heard I "only" had one kid and did spend 45s asking if I was sure. Then I said I was, and that was that.
   * Two Vicodin, and maybe a local? I was awake, then maybe napped?
   * Waiting before & after is the longest bit

   • The Embodiment of RED (thraeryn@thraeryn.net)'s status on Tuesday, 03-May-2022 23:05:39 UTC The Embodiment of RED

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     * I still ejaculate. My ejaculate didn't notably change in any way, including volume.
     * I think they used some sort of tiny clips to close all the snipped and newly-open ends. Every blue moon, they're in an uncomfortable position; a little jiggle sets things right.
     * Every partner I ever had after, for 17 years, has acted (somewhat understandably) like they won a contest they hadn't even entered on hearing about it.

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   • feld (feld@bikeshed.party)'s status on Tuesday, 03-May-2022 23:07:30 UTC feld

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     > Every blue moon, they're in an uncomfortable position; a little jiggle sets things right.
     
     Uncomfortable position is a thing, but also just the wrong pressure in the wrong spot can literally feel like someone has punched you right in the balls full force. But it goes away immediately when you reposition. I literally never think about it.
     
     I've heard in rare cases people can end up with severe frequent pain which would be awful, but AIUI the risk is very low for that.
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   • Eldan Goldenberg (eldang@weirder.earth)'s status on Tuesday, 03-May-2022 23:07:52 UTC Eldan Goldenberg

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     @thraeryn Very similar experience for me > 10 years ago. Small differences:

     * I used a private provider.

     * No questions or hesitation about my not having kids, but they did [appropriately] want to make sure it was 100% clear to me that I should consider the process irreversible because vasectomy reversals are not guaranteed to succeed.

   • Eldan Goldenberg (eldang@weirder.earth)'s status on Tuesday, 03-May-2022 23:07:52 UTC Eldan Goldenberg

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     @thraeryn
     * I never notice the tubes, though I am aware of a tiny piece of scar tissue on the scrotum.

     * I get around by bike, so there were a few weeks of having to take the bus everywhere while healing. So I deliberately scheduled mine for when we usually get the worst weather anyway. After that period, getting back on the bike was no trouble.

     * That particular doctor gave every patient a little pocket knife as a memento, which made me chuckle.

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   • The Embodiment of RED (thraeryn@thraeryn.net)'s status on Tuesday, 03-May-2022 23:07:53 UTC The Embodiment of RED

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     * I don't feel any less manly. I feel LIBERATED. I feel like a recent, clean STI panel (on both sides of the equation) leaves me ready to roll, pretty darn consequence-free.
     * My long-term partners were able to stop THEIR birth-control efforts, which made them MUCH happier people. Nothing about uterine birth control is easy or pleasant.

     Make a call. Take a day off work. Shirk lifting things for a time. If you look at it right, you're buying a lifetime theme park pass.

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   • Not Craig (notcraig@status.notcraig.com)'s status on Tuesday, 03-May-2022 23:08:15 UTC Not Craig

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     @thraeryn every month my girlfriend is able to say, "I'm not pregnant. Again" makes my vasectomy worth it.

     Funny anecdote: when I was having mine done, the doc and i just carried on, talking about my life at the time, full time traveling in an RV.
     The only moment for pause was when I felt her tug on the vas deferens... all the way up to my ear.

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   • The Embodiment of RED (thraeryn@thraeryn.net)'s status on Wednesday, 04-May-2022 10:57:42 UTC The Embodiment of RED

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     • Not Craig

     @notcraig My doc asked before the procedure if I minded a nurse present, as she had little experience with 'em

     So my doc was constantly describing his actions as he acted, and an extra person saw me loopy on whatever opioid

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