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1. Lioness With Mane (lioness@plush.city)'s status on Saturday, 05-Feb-2022 05:45:18 UTC Lioness With Mane

   autism psa:

   us autists tend to naturally cluster together socially, when given the chance. we're just more comfortable for each other to be around, as best I can tell. my online social circle is *very* autism spectrum, for example.

   which is to say, if you're reading this, you're probably at least adjacent to a cluster of autistic (and trans, plural, depressed, ADHD…) folks.

   that's a data point that YOU might be one or several of those things.

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   • Lioness With Mane (lioness@plush.city)'s status on Saturday, 05-Feb-2022 05:45:24 UTC Lioness With Mane

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     other risk factors for being on the autism spectrum:

     * people expect you to know things you couldn't possibly know.
     * you're crap at remembering people's names and faces.
     * people think you're funny, but you suck at jokes.
     * the more helpful and thoughtful you are, the more people get mad at you.
     * people think you're mad when you aren't.
     * "Look at me when I'm talking to you."
     * people are basically random.
     * you don't know what you look like.
     * subtitles.
     * the music is too damn loud.

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   • Santa Claes 🇸🇪🇭🇰🎅 (clacke@libranet.de)'s status on Sunday, 06-Feb-2022 05:12:14 UTC Santa Claes 🇸🇪🇭🇰🎅

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     • MarkusL
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     @markusl Maybe subtitles is because of not being as good at picking up on context and inferring what a missing or garbled word might be? As a non-native speaker that's why I like English subtitles when watching something in English.
     
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   • MarkusL (markusl@fosstodon.org)'s status on Sunday, 06-Feb-2022 05:12:15 UTC MarkusL

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     @david

     I'm slightly disturbed by this list of risk factors and the number of them that I recognise.

     Self-training to overcome discomfort and be more sociable — isn't that what everyone does? No? Oh.

     Could some of these be summed up by the phrases "literal-minded" and "binary thinking" (if it's not A then it must be B)?

     Could you explain what you mean by "subtitles", please? is that just hearing what people say and missing what they really mean?

     @lioness

   • be excellent to each other (david@tech.lgbt)'s status on Sunday, 06-Feb-2022 05:12:19 UTC be excellent to each other

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     @lioness all of these but one and a half for me. And the half is because I've trained myself to not be.

   • jec (jec@social.alesan.io)'s status on Monday, 07-Feb-2022 05:57:43 UTC jec

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     @lioness I personally use subtitles because the sound mix on everything nowadays is a fucking torture to watch. Sound effects are for some reason crazy loud, so you're listening to some dialogue, and then some unnecessarily loud crash or bang or boom or whatever happens, and it upsets me quite a bit. The option of having to sit with the remote in my hand, and reduce and increase volume constantly, is a pain in the ass. I run shows and movies through a compressor (yes, I'm that crazy) but it doesn't fix the issue completely. So I end up still having to watch things at a relatively low volume anyway, and in the process dialogue loses some intelligibility. Ergo, subtitles
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   • MarkusL (markusl@fosstodon.org)'s status on Saturday, 12-Feb-2022 07:45:12 UTC MarkusL

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     @david @lioness

     Oh, and it's quite normal to spend twenty minutes crafting a toot, right?

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