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1. kat (boneidol@indy.im)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Oct-2019 08:09:00 UTC kat
   The guys in my housing block have been talking about me to each other..
   
   So.. I've lived here about 5 years now..
   When I moved in I decided that I would say hello to everyone I met.. if I met in the lift.. in the laundry.. in corridor.. on the stairs, I always say hello to everyone and make light conversation.
   
   I did this because because I like people.. but also because it was a survival technique I learned as a squatter.
   
   It is much easier to be awful to someone if you don't think of them as a person. By talking to people and having a commonality they stop thinking about you as "other" or "weird" and you become just the person who lives in flat 19.
   
   It's a survival mechanism.
   • kat (boneidol@indy.im)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Oct-2019 08:09:25 UTC kat

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     Well .. I bumped into a guy late on Friday night, and had a little chat.. things people always complain about here.. noise.. homeless people breaking in..
     
     Then he says.. "can I ask u a question?".. and I'm like getting that sinking feeling and yes.. it was that question..."the guys are asking .. are you a man or a woman?"..
     
     Well I said i'm a woman.. but I didn't really fancy explaining about trans things.. however he said they were confused because my voice is deep?
   • kat (boneidol@indy.im)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Oct-2019 08:09:47 UTC kat

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     Anyway.. it seemed to be ok. Because he then asked if I had a boyfriend because he has never seen me with anyone. So I said "no I don't have a bf right now".. to which he invited me back to his flat.
     
     I declined his offer because.. well I didn't really want to deal with things.. and that can become a life and death issue..
     
     But.. you know.. life is good!